Safe sex for all… and I mean all!

Jennifer Stephan

Look… I am not talking about just preventing the conception of a child here, although that is a part of it. If you are having sex, considering having sex, or haven’t been taught about sex, this is vital information and I am going to get it all out there! Protected sex is fun sex! Unless you are actively trying to reproduce, no one wants to endure the stress of a missed cycle or being freaked out by STDs. 

It is 2023 and there is no way we should be hiding in the dark about our health and our needs, starting with birth control.

I am going to break it down in a matter-of-fact way so it’s in its simplest form:

  • Implants: 99% effective and usually last up to 5 years
  • IUDs: 99% effective, can last 3- 12 years
  • Shots: 96% effective, typically every 3 months
  • Vaginal Ring: 93% effective, you insert and take out once a month
  • Patch: 93% effective, replace weekly
  • The pill: 93% effective, daily, no exceptions
  • Condoms: 87% effective, male use, every time
  • Internal Condom: 79% effective, female use,  every time
  • Diaphragm: 83% effective, every time, self-insertion
  • Sponge: 78% to 86% effective, use every time, self-insertion
  • Spermicide-Gel: 79% to 86% effective, use every time, self-insertion
  • Cervical cap: 71% to 86% effective, use every time, self-insertion

Now these are all things you can actually take or use. There are some that might say the pull-out method is viable with a 78% effectiveness rate, or knowing when you ovulate (FAMs) 77-98%. There are three more to add to the list:

  •  Abstinence 100%
  • Tubal Ligation 99%
  •  Vasectomy 99%

If you menstruate or produce sperm you are still capable of either having a child or helping to produce one, so all of the above can apply to you. I will add that none of them – with the exception of condoms and abstinence –  protects you from STDs.

Also, because we are inclusive here at Sexplorations, I would like to add a few things for our LGBTQ+ community. Whether you have already started your journey or are just beginning, it’s important to be safe and protect yourself. Using a condom, gloves, or a dental dam are safe practices against STIs. PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis) may also be something to consider. 

With all of that said, you might be asking yourself a few questions. Like why does it seem as if women have the bulk of the responsibility? We do, probably always will, and at the very least we still have control over that for the time being. 

It is important to gather the information you need and educate yourself. We want to enjoy our bodies, explore and feel good but we also need to be safe and protect our wellbeing. Once we have done that we can take the next step knowing we are not only doing what is best for us but for any potential partner we may have. 

Stay safe out there, ask questions and make the choices that are right for you…



About Jennifer Stephan

Relationship and Sex Coach, iPEC Coaching – Certified Professional Coach, International Coach Federation, Energy Leadership Index, Master Practitioner, COR.E Wellbeing Dynamics Specialist

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